...the other day I came across this article in a desi magazine on two brides to be from two opposite social strata’s and wow did it hit you in all the right places!! I mean for one if the article was merely an eye opener then it unquestionably pulled me eyes apart. But if it did indulge in a reality check here and there – it by all means had me choking at the truth of it all!
Either way – at one end we had the proverbial upper middle class lassie and on the other we had the maid servant with the little khushees. The ‘educated’ lassie started off pretty smart and for a while had me with all her practicality – and then wham I think the witching hour hit her and she turned into our routine desi bridezella!! The one whose wedding should be fairytale even if it mean back breaking costs; the one who must have the ‘designer’ jora and the one whose wedding must have ALL the desi tarkas plus the glitz and the glamour. And for the yummy icing on the wedding cake (pun certainly intended) she justified it by saying ‘after all it’s my wedding day!’ In the words of one of me femme fatale friends – HOW CAN??
And now for the little maid servant – for one her khushee did not lie in the jora but rather the very idea of marriage and the changes it would bring with it for her; her family and her in-laws. She was satisfied getting married in a….wait for it….RENTED jora, she did not need matching towelettes and neither did she need the peacock aquamarine must have bed spread! She was content buying her dowry from budget bazaars & found bliss in getting prepped for the wedding at home by her femme family members!
As I let the editorial sink it – my cerebral matter hollered to me once again; agreed you try and get married at least once in this day and age (pun intended once again) but does that mean you can get away with murder? Whatever happened to the whole shindig being a personal affair; where friends and family pitched in and voila we had an event on our hands! I mean heck do you REALLY need an automated walk way to escort you to your throne just because you want your wedding to be unique! I think and I know most of you would agree – uniqueness and weddings can be fused by just adding a little bit of yourself; a little bit of love and lot of simplicity….
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Its not just with marriage, its the same with every ' significant occasion' - unless I carry a particular cellphone, wear that designer watch, get an XYZ outfit for the event, host it at the blah blah venue etc. - the occasion just won't be as special.
But then that's the mindset of most of the affluent people in the land of the pure.
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